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How I Pastor My Family

Pastor Scott — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 16:19:37 +0000

Most Christian men struggle with the concept of spiritual leadership in the home. They just don’t know how to do it. One reason is, most men have never had a good model for spiritual leadership and most churches are not equipping men to be spiritual leaders. I encourage men to look at themselves as the pastor of their family. They give me a very puzzled look because they think of a pastor as someone who has been to seminary or Bible college. As I explain some of the Biblical concepts of spiritual leadership and shepherding, the light bulb begins to go off. The concept begins to resonate, but to pastor your family, you need more than concepts. You need a model.

Justin Hyde is Pastor of Christ Church in Brenham, TX. Not only does he pastor his church, but he also pastors his family. He has a written a very practical post on the topic. He is a great model for this elusive art of spiritual leadership. You will love his approach. Read it here:

http://theresurgence.com/2010/04/13/how-i-pastor-my-family

Parents, You Are Being Watched!

Pastor Scott — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 03:21:55 +0000

Robert Fulghum once said: ”Don’t worry that your children rarely listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” Now, as a parent that is a very sobering thought. I have been a father and a youth ball coach long enough to notice how kids(especially my kids) can tune me out when I am trying to make an important point. There is no question, the older my kids get, the less control I have over them. But I have also noticed, the older my kids get, the more they tune me in at least with their eyes. They watch everything I do. So, I better be very careful because everything I do is teaching my children something whether for good or for bad. My words, my actions and my reactions are teaching something to them every day. My son, Harrison, noticed me texting while driving. Texting while driving is not something I normally do. But, I have to be honest and ask, what message does that send to him? Ryan noticed me spending time alone with God in prayer. What message does that send? Obviously, Ryan got a better message. The point is, every thing we do teaches. Consider some other educational opportunities we have as parents:

Most Christians attend church on average once or twice a month. What does your church attendance communicate to your kids?
How do we handle stress and adversity? Imagine if we modeled, as parents, a prayerful life when it comes to life’s challenges.
So many young couples getting married today have never developed the life skill of managing money. If we are not good financial stewards as parents, how will our children ever learn good stewardship themselves?

The point is not to get you discouraged as a parent, but simply to challenge you to always be thinking of the teaching moments you have every day with your children. Once you think through your parenting through your kid’s perspective, you begin to realize all of the messages you are sending to your kids.

Now, your turn. Take a moment and share a recent teaching moment you have had with your kids watching.

For Family Devotions

Pastor Scott — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 03:57:31 +0000

A great resource for having family devotions is a book by Ruth Graham called Step Into the Bible: 100 Bible Stories for Family Devotions. It gives you a Bible story, questions for discussion and even parent notes and it closes with a Bible memory verse suggestion. It is so easy to use. I talk with busy parents and the common complaint is, “I just don’t know the Bible myself. How can I teach something I don’t even know?” Great question. Here is a great answer: use a resource like this one and you will learn right along with your kids. Give it a try. Anyone else have any great family devotionals you would recommend?